The one about closure

Gepost door Grey-D-Locks , Labels: ,
jul
13

Quick to fall in love, not so quick to fall out of it... Yeah, that's me! I develop crushes just about everyday. It's become kind of a habit, but I like the way it feels to be smitten. What can I say? I'm a sucker for romance. And in those moments I just let my mind wander through all kinds of 'what if' scenario's. What if I glanced like that? What if I smiled like that? I think so much, that by the time I collected all my thoughts, I'd already be in a divorce settlement with my latest crush. And when my fantasy ends, I let go of the infatuation. No strings attached, they're all here for my private enjoyment. I thinking that maybe I should record all these scenario's and make a book with short stories, haha! Maybe I will someday, when I'm feeling creative...

But today is about closure. As I mentioned, I fall in love in a heartbeat, wear my heart on my sleeve. And for some time I've been having a hard time letting go of a certain someone. Today was the hardest day of them all. It was monday, no more world cup or friends to keep me busy. Nope, just me, my thoughts and a playlist full of depressing music... Ouch. I was about to give up on today and go to bed just rolling around thinking: "Why is this happening"! But suddenly I had a moment of clarity! I've been so worked up about why it was that it did not work out between me and [insert name] that I forgot about all the things that DID work between us. The fact that I found a good friend who taught me a lot about life was completely clouded by my pride and my confusion about the fact that I couldn't make it work anymore in the end. I became angry and cold and lost hope. But in that moment I suddenly found it in myself to accept one fact. 'What's done is done and can't be undone'. It's a new chapter, but this time it's not one out of my scenario's! This is real, so it's time to move on. If I don't, I won't be able to open myself up to anyone else and I'll lose a friend at the same time. I'm going to prove to myself and everybody who told me that it was impossible to start a friendship with someone you cared about in a romantic way, that it is possible! I can take not being the one now, I can't take being no one at all...


This is me, signing off ;) *and listening to Gwen Stefani's 'Cool' ^^*

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There are generation gaps for a reason!

Gepost door Grey-D-Locks , Labels:
jul
06

Hi!

So I think I finally have something worth talking about. Inspiration came to me and let me tell you... this one is a doozy.

Today my aunts thought we had reached the point in our relationship that they could discuss matters of the human pleasure! No, I'm not talking about the big nasty, cuz I would have had to been recuscitaded (BREATHE, child, breathe!) No, they had to go and discuss the places they want to go and/or have gone to to go enjoy their nightlife. This in itself isn't a big issue for me of course. More power to you if you decide that you may have gone and leaped over your mid thirties, but you are not some plain Jane housewife. But it IS however an issue when the following is being discussed with me: I do not need any explaining about what the places of your choice happen to be when they are same clubs and scenes that your 20-year old cousin also favors to go/be around! NO WAY! I was just sitting there with my aunts just having normal conversation and all of a sudden I have to be de recepient of this disturbing news! Are you kidding me! 

But it gets worse if possible! So now that they've been discussing with me where they like to spend their nights dancing and drinking (cuz they can't fool nobody! I was at all them birthday parties and they know how to handle a drink haha!) my aunts start talking about things like msn messenger, facebook and how they hate it that they have their parents on their chatlists or what not. [...] Have I entered some twilight zone where age/generation GAPS have no importance?! Really?! So.. when I was brought to the attention of this interesting common ground, I took it to myself to remind them that this fact is very known to us young people and that my aunts should think of this situation as a learning experience and take it to themselves to not bother their offspring in their internet environment. They were offended! Are you kidding me!? Is it too much to ask of your elder-LY family to have some retrospect?? It was so contradicting and I looked at my cousin and she didn't know what to say either... So I left my aunt's place, even though they really insisted on me to stay (like I'm gonna want to listen to more of these revelations!), feeling very confused and I just needed that of my chest.

This is me,, signing off ;)

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